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Sexy, Sophisticated or Relaxed Style?

One of my favorite things about fashion is that it has no boundaries. Depending on where I am, who I'm with and what I'm doing, my style spectrum ranges all across the board. I'd say my top three favorite styles are sexy, sophisticated & relaxed. At different phases of my life, each one was a front-runner but they were all always in my mix.

Jennifer Aniston, Olivia Palermo & Cameron Diaz
Jennifer Aniston Photo - courtesy of
Olivia Palermo & Cameron Diaz Photo - courtesy of

SEXY - When I was younger my aim was always to impress men and get as much attention as possible, so 90% of what I wore was sexy. I couldn't get enough of cropped shirts or any other strategically placed cuts or slits that showed off my fabulous, young skin and toned abs. I remember trying to convince my mom that I could wear this expensive outfit I wanted to a wedding because even though the top was midriff baring, fringe was covering my belly. Needless to say, I didn't win that battle but I did end up getting a fitted dress with shoulder pads and rocked it (loved the 80's)! Nowadays, I still like to dress sexy, just in a more age-appropriate way. Rather than baring it all, I like to choose one part of my body to accentuate.

80's Vs Now
Left side is me in all my 80's glory and right side is me recently. Sexy comes in all ages

RELAXED - In my late 20's I not only did I dress sexy, I also started branching into a more casual & relaxed style. Evenings were still fair game for racy clothes but what I viewed as sexy was changing. Since I was buttoned up all day at work by 6pm, I cared a lot more about being relaxed and comfortable too. Luckily for me, this time frame coincided with the beginning of the designer jean and shoe craze. My nights out included a pair of Diesel jeans, a flirty cropped tank and heels. As a matter of fact, I bought my first pair of Jimmy Choos on sale from $325 for $170 (wow, I'd take that full price Choos vs. now-a-days any time) and they were incorporated into almost every evening outfit if at all possible. What I love about relaxed style is that it never looks or feels like I've tried too hard and it usually is easy to transition from day-to-night.

Relaxed Style
Left is a photo of me cruising around the south of France last year.
Right is me and friend in Chicago headed out for the evening seven years ago.
Both are casual chic styles that were comfortable, too.

SOPHISTICATED - In my 20's and early 30's I worked in corporate America, so my style motto during the day changed to a lot more sophisticated and sometimes even preppy. Suits, knee-length tailored skirts & dresses, and pants with button downs ruled my days. My nights had a lot more dresses & silk tops in the mix to add a refined touch. I learned that dressing sophisticated earned a different type of appreciation from both men and women.  Please keep in mind, sophisticated looks don't have to mean boring and mine never were. Then & now I'm a huge fan of dresses with interesting cuts & a pop of color. The sophistication comes with just the right fit and clean lines +++ you can exponentially increase the look with a gorgeous up-do.

This is my sophisticated style but it still has a little "WOW" because of the bold dress color and up do.

What style do you think best suits you now and when you were younger? We'd love to hear from you!


Style Ranger

Thanks It took a lot of work to get my hair that big :-)


Love the Sabrina of the 80’s!!!!

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